Daily Marauder



If you’ve been meandering around in Facebook for a while now, you’ve become quite familiar with the nefarious relationship status field.

Here’s a video from Break.com to give you a bit of visual background on the situation.  WARNING: SO not work appropriate.

A couple of weeks ago, I made a bold decision to remove my relationship status completely from my profile.  I know.  Shocking.  It’s the divorce court of Facebook.

Facebook deals with this removal like this:

Caroline is no longer single.

What transpired after its removal included a barrage of e-mails, wall postings, and text messages all inquiring who this new man was in my life.  Well let me tell you something Facebook, I’ve had it with you blowing up my spot.  Being a NYC female, my dating life fluctuates from week to week and I really don’t need a virtual reminder.  Nor, do I need a variety of scenarios which have popped up over the last few years. Observe.

Possibilities for Failure

Here are a few examples of ‘relationship status’ rearing its ugly head in your profile’s direction.  Take notes.

Scenario 1

Let’s say, you’ve started dating someone new.  Let’s call him X.  It’s going well, but being a bit conservative, you don’t like to label the thing something it’s not so you might tell people you’re dating someone and then again, maybe not.  So, X is checking out your profile one day and observes your ‘Single’ tag all out there in the open like.  X brings it up randomly one night in jest as if it doesn’t really matter and continues to dwell on it continuously for WEEKS.  Is it possible to break up over a relationship status?  Possible.

Scenario 2

Perhaps you’ve been dating someone (let’s call him Y) for a few weeks.  In what can only be labeled a huge oversight, you have never checked the boy’s Facebook profile.  When you do, you’re a bit shocked to find out that he’s “in a relationship” with his ex-girlfriend who he supposedly broke up with a month ago.  You break up with Y immediately only to be stalked by ex-girlfriend in true I’m-gonna-get-you-sucka fashion.  Fatal Facebook Attraction?  I don’t wanna be a statistic y’all. . .

Scenario 3

Remove your relationship status only to be stalked by someone you dated several months ago as he now deems you, ‘the one who got away’.

The Don’t List

1) Don’t be one of those people who change their status continuously from ‘in a relationship’ to out.  It’s like those people who go out and get married only to prove to their friends that they’re serious about one another, rather than because they really want to.

2) Don’t accost the person you’re dating about changing their Facebook status to reflect that you’re in a relationship.  Facebook shouldn’t define your romantic life.  If it does, I recommend removing your profile completely and going on a 12-step program.

3) Don’t keep your status locked on ‘It’s Complicated.’  It’s only funny to you.

The How To

Click here for some helpful advice on removing or changing your relationship status in MySpace or Facebook.

Past Indecent Exposure Editions

To Tag or Not to Tag?

When You’re Status Says Too Much


Friend Requests

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Listen up randoms of the world: I don’t want ANY.

I’m sure your band rocks out but unless I’ve already jammed to you, I’m not adding you as my “friend” in Myspace. And to random sketchy guy: If we haven’t met nor do we have any connections in common, I’m not confirming you.

In this most recent edition of Facespace, I attempt to tackle a sensitive issue:

Unwanted Friend Requests

It’s hard to imagine a real world situation in which a stranger calmly saunters up to you and requests your friendship. In Facespace, however, this is common practice. In many cases, a simple ignore is the only necessary response. Shockingly though, some will send multiple friend requests to test your resolve. In even rarer situations, some friend requests can result in jail time.

Just take UK resident Dillon Osborn, as evidence. In October ‘07, he was sent to jail for sending a friend request to his ex-wife after receiving a restraining order forbidding to contact her. Way harsh Ty. Some click ignore. Some call the po’ po’. Interesting tactic. For more on the story, click here.



1 a: one attached to another by affection or esteem b: acquaintance

There are several classifications of unwanted friend requests. Let’s dig a bit deeper. . .

Work Colleagues

Here you are at your desk minding your own business, wasting some quality time on Facebook when your boss sends a friend request. It’s one thing if you and your boss are close but quite another if this isn’t the case.

What do you do?

Ignore and create an awkward situation with the man/woman who decides your promotional state. Accept and your boss has free access to your online identity. No more drunken photos of you and the friends. In any situation when a boss or any other work colleague attempts the friend lock, tread carefully. I have no easy answer on this one. It’s really a case by case decision.



In doing some research for this post, I came across an article from the Washington Post describing a situation in which a father had requested to be his son’s friend in Facebook. Many teenagers regard their social networking space as an environment free from the prying eyes of their parents. Many parents know this and find it to be an uncomfortable situation.

Here’s my judgment on this one. Don’t friend your kids. They have a hard enough time trying to convince other kids how cool their kicks are on a daily basis. In addition, if the mall has been replaced by Facespace, it still doesn’t qualify a visit from mom or dad.


This situation presented itself as recently as Friday. Some random man sent me a friend request. I saw that he was friends with my friend and so figured that I knew him. Accepted. I then proceed to get an e-mail from 2 other friends (obviously doing their homework) asking if I know this man. Oh snap! A friend roach on the prowl and I didn’t even see it coming.

The Final Word

Don’t be a friend roach. If we wouldn’t sit together in the cafeteria, we shouldn’t be friends in Facespace.

Want More Facespace?

If you’re ready to tackle more social networking faux pas’, check out the other Indecent Exposure in Facespace posts:

To Tag or Not to Tag


When Your Status Says Too Much







You know who you are.  Biting chumps, sucking blood. . . .you’ve obviously watched 28 Days Later one too many times.  Every morning, I awake with grand expectations from my social networking profile, only to find it bogged down in application requests to hug someone, drop kick your mom, fight your knight, take a quiz, buy you a drink, etc.

Stop the insanity! 


I do miss Susan Power’s self-help infomercials.  In this case, “Eat, Breathe, Move” should be changed to “Eat, Breathe, Stop Sending Random Application Requests.”


In May 2007, Facebook released the Facebook Platform allowing developers to create applications exponentially increasing the innovation available on the site.


In November 2007, Google responded by releasing Open Social, their APIs (application programming interfaces) for any social network site that supports them including MySpace.com, Friendster.com, and Hi5.com. 

The biggest difference between them:

Facebook’s API allowed developers to create applications for the Facebook environment alone as compared to Google’s Open Social which allowed developers to create applications on a variety of social networking platforms simultaneously.

To be very fair, Open Social has not quite delivered on this promise.  In the beginning, it only worked on Google-owned social networking site Orkut and not well to boot.

Back to the problem at hand.  Marathon application requests.


I attempted to take matters into my own hands by joining a group which I thought clearly demonstrated my disgust with the zombie/vampire/pirate/werewolf applications.  The biting continued.

To be very fair, I was an application whore myself and probably still am to some degree.  In the heat of adding that Sex and the City Which Character Are You? application, I sometimes feel compelled to send to my friends. 

Here’s the really brilliant part about applications.  They’re so successfully viral because of the way that sharing them personalizes the sender.  I send you some application bringing the hotness and maybe, just maybe. . .you’ll think I’m super awesome because I also love Gossip Girl quotes.

Personalization is the underlying force behind sharing of any kind and hateration aside, a force that I can get behind.  So share away, but maybe limit those zombie requests.  On the flipside of positive branding, some applications can have negative branding forces instead.  I’m now going to go Hug It Out with someone. 

Ah, application love.   




facebook fired

v. being fired for something you post on facebook

Damns, I just got facebook fired! http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=facebook+fired



Above are three sample photographs from the Facebook group, 30 Reasons Girls Should Call It A Night and the start to my bi-weekly exploration into the etiquette of social networking. As Facebook has evolved from a college-only environment to one filled with our professional colleagues, some rules should be exercised while surfing around social networking land.

Rule #1: DO NOT upload photos of your inebriated self from a party, especially if that party happens to be your office holiday party.

Rule #2: DO NOT tag your colleagues in compromising photos where they are inebriated at some party, especially if that party happens to be your office holiday party. Rule #2 is almost more important than rule #1.

As further reference to how this could potentially affect your professional life, meet Kevin Colvin.


Kevin Colvin was an intern at Anglo Irish Bank’s North American arm. “Was” is the key word. Colvin here sent an e-mail to his manager, Paul Davis, asking for a day off due to a “family emergency”.


In all actuality, Colvin attended a Halloween party in Worcester, MA where he dressed in the adorable fairy costume above. The photo was posted to Facebook and later discovered by one of his co-workers. The photo was sent to his manager who responded by attaching the photo to the following e-mail and BCCing the entire office:


You may be job-less KC but nice job on the glitter. What have we learned here? Be careful what you upload in Facespace.


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